“When we block or suppress or push aside emotions, we actually stop ourselves from being our most effective, successful beings.” ~Susan David, PhD
“The way we navigate our inner world – our everyday thoughts, emotions, and self-stories – is the single most important determinant of our life success. It drives our actions, careers, relationships, happiness, health; everything. For example: Do we let our self-doubts, failings, shame, fear, or anger hold us back? Can we be determined, persevering toward key life goals, but just as importantly, have the insight and courage to recognize when these goals are not serving us, and adapt?
According to this week’s guest, the key to successfully navigating our inner world isn’t immunizing ourselves against stress and setbacks. And it doesn’t involve ignoring uncomfortable feelings. Instead, it’s developing something called emotional agility – the teachable ability to confront difficult emotions, gain critical self-insight from these feelings, and ultimately use this newfound awareness to adaptively align our values with our actions and make changes to bring the best of ourselves forward…
[This is a conversation] about how and why our emotional landscape, the everyday thoughts and stories we often hide from the world and oftentimes ourselves, are the single most important determinant of life success. And why navigating life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind leads to empowerment and agency.
It’s about why we must overcome the urge to ignore difficult emotions and behaviors to instead face them willingly, as a neutral observer, with curiosity and kindness. It’s about identifying your core values as a path to willpower, resilience and effectiveness. And it’s about how developing this skill called emotional agility – essentially mastery over our emotions, thoughts and stories… But more than anything, this is a conversation about the perils of avoiding uncomfortable feelings. Because the tough emotions are the price we pay for a meaningful life.”
Susan David’s TED Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage.