The Power of Emotional Agility & Why Discomfort is the Price of Admission to a Meaningful Life

https://www.richroll.com/podcast/susan-david-356/

“When we block or suppress or push aside emotions, we actually stop ourselves from being our most effective, successful beings.” ~Susan David, PhD

“The way we navigate our inner world – our everyday thoughts, emotions, and self-stories – is the single most important determinant of our life success. It drives our actions, careers, relationships, happiness, health; everything. For example: Do we let our self-doubts, failings, shame, fear, or anger hold us back? Can we be determined, persevering toward key life goals, but just as importantly, have the insight and courage to recognize when these goals are not serving us, and adapt?

According to this week’s guest, the key to successfully navigating our inner world isn’t immunizing ourselves against stress and setbacks. And it doesn’t involve ignoring uncomfortable feelings. Instead, it’s developing something called emotional agility – the teachable ability to confront difficult emotions, gain critical self-insight from these feelings, and ultimately use this newfound awareness to adaptively align our values with our actions and make changes to bring the best of ourselves forward…

[This is a conversation] about how and why our emotional landscape, the everyday thoughts and stories we often hide from the world and oftentimes ourselves, are the single most important determinant of life success. And why navigating life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind leads to empowerment and agency.

It’s about why we must overcome the urge to ignore difficult emotions and behaviors to instead face them willingly, as a neutral observer, with curiosity and kindness. It’s about identifying your core values as a path to willpower, resilience and effectiveness. And it’s about how developing this skill called emotional agility – essentially mastery over our emotions, thoughts and stories… But more than anything, this is a conversation about the perils of avoiding uncomfortable feelings. Because the tough emotions are the price we pay for a meaningful life.”

Susan David’s TED Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage.

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Neil Kramer & Niles Heckman: Transmutation, The Divine Mysteries & The Path Of The Mystic

https://www.thehighersidechats.com/neil-kramer-niles-heckman-transmutation-the-divine-mysteries-the-path-of-the-mystic/

“[I]t’s easy to feel disenfranchised with our cog in the wheel society and the life sucking Empire perched above it. Draining us spiritually, emotionally, and in every other sense of the word. Stifling our innovation and development., and filling us with the aggressive indoctrination that if you seek a path outside of normalcy you will no doubt, crash and burn.

However, we still see some people outside of that cage who seem different: Freer, happier, enlightened and at peace – and we hear these outliers telling us that freedom is only a few brave choices away… that the Universe rewards the bold, and there isn’t much holding us back except our own fear. It’s a tough message to adopt, but there’s no denying the persistent call to tear down those cubical walls, shatter the shackles of the Empire, and orient our lives towards our True Will and the path of the Esoteric Tradition…

[Today, we’re joined by Neil Kramer,] a philosopher, teacher, and esotericist. His work focuses on spirituality, mysticism, and metaphysics. He is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in New York, where he teaches spiritual philosophy, mysticism, esoteric studies, and self-development… [W]e’re also joined by Niles Heckman. A talented film maker and documentarian who has worked on several projects in line with the spiritual path including his episodic series, “Shamans of the Global Village.”

Together, they’ve just released a new documentary entitled Transmutation. Written and Narrated by Neil and Directed by Niles, Transmutation is a documentary about becoming your best self, rejecting the Empire, discovering the beauty and dangers of a hidden spiritual path, and hearing from those who have transformed themselves by walking it.”

http://neilkramer.com/

The War on Consciousness – Graham Hancock

https://grahamhancock.com/

“What is death? Our materialist science reduces everything to matter. Materialist science in the West says that we are just meat, we’re just our bodies. So when the brain is dead, that’s the end of consciousness, there is no life after death, there is no soul; we just rot and are gone. Actually, many honest scientists should admit that consciousness is the greatest mystery of science and that we don’t know exactly how it works. The brain is involved in it some way but we’re not sure how. It could be that the brain generates consciousness the way a generator makes electricity, if you hold to that paradigm, then of course you can’t believe in life after death, when the generator’s broken, consciousness is gone. But it’s equally possible that the relationship — and nothing in neuroscience rules it out – that the relationship is more like the relationship of the TV signal to the TV set, and in that case, when the TV set is broken, of course the TV signal continues. And this is the paradigm of all spiritual traditions, that we are immortal souls temporarily incarnated in these physical forms to learn and to grow and to develop

If we want to know about this mystery, the last people we should ask are materialist reductionist scientists… Let’s go, rather, to the ancient Egyptians who put their best minds to work for 3,000 years on the problem of death, and on the problem of how we should live our lives to prepare for what we will confront after death… They came to certain, very specific conclusions that the soul does survive death and that we will be held accountable for every thought, every action, every deed that we have lived through in our lives, so we better take this precious opportunity to be born in a human body seriously and make the most of it…

There is a war on consciousness in our society, and if we as adults are not allowed to make sovereign decisions about what to experience with our own consciousness while doing no harm to others, including the decision to use responsibly ancient and sacred visionary plants, then we cannot claim to be free in any way.” ~Graham Hancock

Graham Hancock – The War on Consciousness – Banned TED Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X_hShqKn5cg”>

Steps to Become Autonomous, Independent and Self-Actualized in Life

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“3) Living daringly and honestly:

– To follow the path that your (true) heart compels you.

– To walk away from situations that are killing you.

– To make choices you own and can live with.

– To take leaps of faith when appropriate.

– To live without spiritual regrets.

– To confront and overcome your ego-based fears.

– To accumulate meaningful experience.

– To put your wisdom, intuition and intelligence into practice and live it…

4) Mind over Matter:

– To know that your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, mindset, attitude, outlook,
etc. not only color what you perceive, but also shape what
experiences/people you attract in life.

– That you can and should resist giving into self-destructive, limiting
beliefs and moods that are distortions of reality, because they will
otherwise distort physical reality into seemingly confirming those mental
distortions…

– That what you focus on most, you help bring into being.” ~Tom Montalk

http://montalk.net/

We Need a Revolution…

http://www.wakingtimes.com/2018/06/08/we-need-a-revolution-it-starts-with-falling-in-love-with-the-earth/

“We can all experience a feeling of deep admiration and love when we see the great harmony, elegance and beauty of the Earth. A simple branch of a cherry blossom, the shell of a snail or the wing of a bat all bear witness to the Earth’s masterful creativity… When we can truly see and understand the Earth, love is born in our hearts. We feel connected. That is the meaning of love: To be at one.

Only when we’ve truly fallen back in love with the Earth will our actions spring from reverence, and the insight of our interconnectedness. Yet many of us have become alienated from the Earth. We are lost, isolated and lonely. We work too hard, our lives are too busy, and we are restless and distracted, losing ourselves in consumption. But the Earth is always there for us, offering us everything we need for our nourishment and healing: The miraculous grain of corn, the refreshing stream, the fragrant forest, the majestic snow-capped mountain peak, and the joyful birdsong at dawn.

Many of us think we need more money, more power or more status before we can be happy. We’re so busy spending our lives chasing after money, power and status that we ignore all the conditions for happiness already available. At the same time, we lose ourselves in buying and consuming things we don’t need, putting a heavy strain on both our bodies and the planet. Yet much of what we drink, eat, watch, read or listen to, is toxic and is polluting our bodies and minds with violence, anger, fear and despair…

We don’t need to consume a lot to be happy; in fact, we can live very simply. With mindfulness, any moment can become a happy moment. Savoring one simple breath, taking a moment to stop and contemplate the bright blue sky, or to fully enjoy the presence of a loved one, can be more than enough to make us happy… It’s not money, power or consuming that can make us happy, but having love and understanding in our heart.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

“Repeat After Me”

http://www.serpentfire.ca/blog/2018/3/25/repeat-after-me

“It is a privilege to be tested. I am grateful for the lessons. They are all necessary experiences on the path of becoming.

I humbly accept the tasks set before me. I will not shrug off their poignancy, though I will ask for help if I need it, knowing that boundaries are important. I have made an agreement with the cosmos, that my tests are for my Will to understand, execute and overcome in my own time, at my own pace, but that they are mine. No one else’s.

It is a gift to be alive, and to endure the tests therein.  I graciously embrace it all: The good, the challenge, the pain, the relief.

I will become alchemy at its finest, and transmute the lessons into self love for myself and others. I will serve only my highest good. And when I cannot, I will take my leave and rest, knowing that tomorrow is another opportunity to try again.”

~Devany Wolfe (excerpt from upcoming book)

http://www.serpentfire.ca/

LAO TZU’S FOUR RULES FOR LIVING

http://www.wakingtimes.com/2018/05/15/lao-tzus-four-rules-for-living/

“Many centuries ago, Lao Tzu spoke of the four cardinal virtues, teaching that when we practice them as a way of life, we come to know the truth of the universe. The ancient Chinese master said that living and practicing these teachings can open you to higher wisdom and greater happiness, as they realign you to the source and enable you to access all the powers that source energy has to offer…

The four cardinal virtues, or rules for living life, can provide a framework for a life filled with inner peace and purpose.

1. Reverence for all Life

This virtue manifests as having unconditional love and positive regard for all creatures in the universe, starting with ourselves, then this will naturally flow out to all others… When we live with reverence for all life, we surrender our need to control and to dominate. We naturally come into heartfelt appreciation and gratitude for all of life. This first virtue is the key to diminishing the ego.

2. Natural Sincerity

When we are sincere and act with integrity, we move towards peace and inner tranquility. Our conscience clear, we don’t have the inner niggles over our dishonest actions that can erode a peaceful mind. Much of these four pillars relate to karma, the law of cause and effect, and maintaining equilibrium and impeccability. This virtue is honesty, simplicity, and faithfulness…

3. Gentleness

Gentleness is a deeply powerful trait. Often interpreted as weakness, gentleness is sensitivity, respect, and reverence for all life… Gentleness is an umbrella for forgiveness, acceptance and love. It is much like the yogic term ahimsa, or non-violence. When we give up being right and being superior, we start accepting ourselves and others, and so much conflict in our lives drops away…

4. Supportiveness

When we are supportive of ourselves, with kind words, loving actions and self-care, we are naturally supportive of others. This virtue is the basic tenet of humanity… When we give to others, share and support others, we become happy.  Our lives become meaningful and our hearts full. Supportiveness is about service. Open hearted service for the sake of helping others and benefiting others, with no thought to our own gain…

Let these four virtues fragrance your life, and notice the grace and ease that will come your way. For each one of these virtues brings in a way of being that is light, graceful and flowing and will help you shed destructive, self defeating patterns that sabotage your inner peace and happiness.